LD and I are looking for a third. If you get a third with your secondary, what does that make him? do you multiply the numbers? or is he a secondary cubed? My secondary's secondary? My primary's tertiary? gah!
Specifically, LD is giving me the gift of my own little boytoy to Dominate and play with... and it couldn't come a moment too soon.
Domina Rubenesque Brunette has been having some uncharitable thoughts lately.
After the 4th time getting up off of the floor to bring LD another drink or snack, I catch myself thinking "for fucks sake, is he deliberately waiting until I sit down to send me back in to the kitchen?!"
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After a very long and unsuccessful afternoon of errands, every frustration and roadblock is met with the thought "gee, it must be nice to have a slave to do all of this for You"
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Criticism is countered in my head with "I don't have to take this, I can leave at any time, what the hell am I doing here?"
Domina RB wants to be let out to play.
Shockingly, it hasn't been as easy to find a third as you might think. Are we being too picky? We're looking for someone who is:
- submissive
- bisexual
- attractive (in our opinion)
- adventurous in their kinks and/or shares some of our kinks
How hard can this be?!
Well let me tell you Dear Readers, it has been an exercise in frustration. Harder, in fact, than when I was looking for a secondary, even though I had more exacting criteria then. Apparently a truly bisexual submissive male is like a unicorn... completely mythical.
Did you know, Dear Readers, that in order to call yourself bisexual (as a man), all you have to do is be comfortable naked in the same room as another naked man? Hell, if you let a guy suck you off once while you were drunk, you're practically a full fledged gay man!
and just a tip, for all of you submissive men out there who might be in this situation... when asked if you're bisexual, saying "well I'd let him suck me off" is NOT an appropriate answer. Honey, you are a submissive man who is going to be tag teamed between two Dominants... how much oral do you REALLY think YOU'LL be receiving? I suggest you stretch your jaw before coming over however.
After the last couple months of completely unsuccessful attempts, we finally found someone to meet up with. The plan was to meet up for drinks prior to the swingers party, just to check each other out in person.
We got stood up.
Next on the list, a trans MTF who's stopped midway through his transitioning a few years ago (though advertised himself as a cross dresser, not trans) and is cheating on his partner. I am normally very anti-cheating, but have gotten to the point where I am willing to relax my standards enough to at least check him out. He was... ok... Attractive enough, I suppose... didn't make me want to jump him when I saw him. Obviously nervous. Does seem to share a lot of our kinks, does seem to *actually* be both submissive and bisexual... Not ideal but I suppose worth a second meeting someplace less noisy, where perhaps he'll be less nervous and we can check him out a little more thoroughly.
Selfishly, my biggest hangup on cheating is the logistics to it. I don't want to have to bother with sneaking around and managing schedules, etc. When i was looking for a secondary, it was a deal breaker. When you're in a secondary relationship, you're managing 3 schedules as it is... mine, His and DHs... When you throw in a 4th schedule to try and sneak around, suddenly you're lucky if you can manage a meeting once a quarter. Should CCD (Cheating Cross Dresser) become involved with us, that will be FIVE schedules that we are trying to deal with. Makes my head hurt just thinking about how to coordinate something like that.
We also have another date next Friday with a prospect... practically a kinky virgin, though he seems quite eager, so I'm not suer how carefully we'll have to tread. We all know how much I enjoy popping cherries though, so the newbie aspect may be a bonus for us.
I will keep you apprised of our progress (or lack thereof) Dear Readers.. I'm sure there will be more amusing stories to come.
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