Let me clarify... it's the "occasion" gifts that frustrate me. Run of the mill Birthday/Christmas/etc gifts for those I care about make me want to curl into a ball and suck my thumb until the whole thing passes me by.
See the thing is... I give gifts alllll of the time. I'm one of those people who will buy a new pen for their stationary-supply-crazed coworker because I saw it and thought she'd like it. I pack a bag full of low-carb-healthy-airplane-friendly-tasty snacks for LD's 60 hours of travel time for His flight to Bali, because i know He dislikes airplane food. I buy treats for DH every time I go grocery shopping, or make his favourite foods even though they're not to my liking... I bring cookies to work on Mondays. I like to show people that I love and appreciate them *every* day... not just on days society says are special. (wow, this makes me sound like some sort of Suzy Sunshine)
I also feel that "major gifts" should be occasions on their own. You don't propose to someone for their birthday... a proposal should be its own special event. Going to collar me? Fluid bond? These aren't 'gifts' that should piggy back on to a holiday... that's just cheating and it overshadows the occasion that you're supposed to be celebrating.
So that leaves me stumped when it comes to 'occasion' gifts... DH and I don't exchange gifts, so that makes things easy, but LDs birthday is coming up in the beginning of April... and I have no. clue. what. to. do.
How do I think of something that is *more* meaningful than my every day displays of affection and appreciation, but not so meaningful that it overshadows the occasion that we're celebrating? I shun most material gifts... I mean... it just seems so trivial to give a CD box set or new clothing or anything like that. He can get all of that stuff himself... I want to give him something special, meaningful, that can only come from me...
This makes me sound like a hippy, but I'm not materialistic.. I'm all about the experiences man, not the stuff.
Sometimes I wish I weren't such a slut... if I'd been holding back sexual practices or kinks, I'd have something to give, ya? How can I give more of *me* when I already give all that I'm able to? If I were to give any more, I'd be entering that "overshadowing the occasion" territory.
I'm stumped Dear Readers... I need ideas.. your thoughts on gifts.. what do YOU do for your loved ones (if you still exchange gifts)? What can I do for LD? (Sir, please do not read any comments so as not to spoil any surprises)
unregenerate is kinda like this. There is just nothing I can ever get for him come holidays/bdays. When I ask, he's never helpful. I usually go for something I think will make him smile, or something that although he could get for himself, he wouldn't. When I'm really stumped, I just tie myself in a big red satin bow (one year for xmas I made a sash of red fabric for just such a purpose).
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